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Maybe it required too much change or taking a big risk. Maybe you were scared to have to convince a loved one how much you needed this. I was twenty-one then, and in my third year of medical school. We were in one of our first psychiatry classes, and the professor was demonstrating to us a patient with conversion disorder. I was hooked. In no other class had I been so completely absorbed. I fell in love with a big thud, reading everything I could on neuroscience and the brain. You see, my dad was and still is a prominent eye surgeon who owned several hospitals and had been waiting to hand over his empire to me.
I was raised in a culture where kids obeyed their parents. No questions asked. Even more so if you are the first born; added points if you were female. Unluckily, I was both. And so I ignored the and buried my desires. Then, tragedy hit and my mother unexpectedly died.
And just like that, life was turned topsy turvy. Even the heady immortality of youth is sobered by meeting death up close. I developed this urgent, almost desperate need to be fully alive and true to myself in the time I had left on this earth. It has been more than ten years now since I took the plunge. I have become a board certified psychiatrist in the U.
S, my siblings have grown and my dad and I have made up. But I would not have changed this journey, difficult as it was in some ways, even if I had the chance. Because it taught me, through trial and lots of errors, how to become real. And so this is in no way a generic prescription. These things happened to work for me and I share them with the hope that some may help you in your travels as well. I had and still have friends who knew and loved me unconditionally. This is truly invaluable.
Make and keep good friends and be honest with them. They can be your moral compass during stormy times. Not just psychologically, but literally, like in share-her-last-sandwich-while-reading-poetry-on-long-afternoons kind of support. It would have been so easy, and actually it was, to hate my dad for a while. But as time passed, I was able to see his side too.
This guy was so poor while growing up that he had only one meal a day and wore torn rags to school. He had to sneak to elementary classes from his day job herding sheep. From there, he had risen to be one of the top surgeons in the country and built an empire. Me rejecting it felt personal, like I was rejecting him. We all make mistakes. If you can, forgive and allow compassion into your relationships. It makes the ride more beautiful. This is the beginning of self-esteem. Although stuff happens, ultimately you are responsible for your actions.
When we deeply and utterly understand that to be true, life takes on a whole new meaning. Whatever has happened until the past moment is gone. This present moment is again yours. And you have the power to do whatever you want with it. I struggled with this one for a while. First, I had no big vision. So my goals and actions went in circles for a while. Then shape your short-term goals so it is moving you in that direction or at least not away from it. You are already naked.
There is no reason not to follow your heart. Death can come at any moment, to any of us. In fact, we owe it to ourselves and those we love to be truly alive and authentic in each moment. It is the only legacy we can be proud to leave behind. It is better to have tried and failed than to not have tried at all. Think and analyze your decisions carefully, but once you feel reasonably sure you have made a good choice, just trust yourself. Be bold and go forth into the wilderness. Whatever happens, you will have gained an experience from it that only the courageous can boast of. You are unique.
There is only one you in this entire universe. No one has exactly your strange and magical mix of genes and experience. Learn what makes you tick. And keep building on that. You will make wonderful things happen. We all mess up once in a while. When it happens and you finally catch on, drop your ego, admit your mistake fully, and make amends.
Then forgive yourself and move on. Life is hard and we are not made to be perfect. This present moment is alive and full of potential. Learning to be mindful has helped me tremendously by keeping me in my life, as it happens. I highly recommend a daily mindfulness practice. It has changed the way I relate to life. It has gotten me through many a sticky situation. And created hours of pure fun.
Include as much good humor in your day as legally possible. You are special and there is a reason you are on this earth. No matter what your situation is, there is something you can do today to move toward your true self. Photo by Mourner. Kavetha is a psychiatrist, passionate about using neuroscience and eastern mindfulness to help people live their best lives.
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. Cummings Have you ever had a clear of who you really are and then totally ignored it? Although exhilarating, in my mind, this was also a disaster. About Kavetha Sundaramoorthy Kavetha is a psychiatrist, passionate about using neuroscience and eastern mindfulness to help people live their best lives. Web More Posts. See a typo or inaccuracy? Please so we can fix it!
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